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October 2018

Squeeze More Life Out Of Your Life With A Bucket List

I saw a story about The Superagers’s Dream Bucket List, and I had to read it. The title had a compulsive effect on me. After the age of 50 pieces like that grab your attention. Okay, maybe they always caught my attention.

I read the piece on superagers (Over 55s’ dream bucket list revealed from getting tattoos to hitting Route 66), and it got me thinking.

Where Does Bucket List Come From?

The origin of the word bucket list is quite interesting! Its derived from the phrase “kick the bucket” which pretty much means “to die.”

The link between buckets and death goes back to at least 1785 when the phrase appeared in something called Grose’s Dictionary of the Vulgar Tongue. Yes, seriously there was a dictionary of the Vulgar Tongue!

Squeeze More Life Out Of Your Life With A Bucket List

“The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and for deeds left undone.” – Harriet Beecher Stowe

To kick the bucket is an English term, considered a slang term meaning ‘to die’.

Several conflicting theories exist about the origin of the term, yet each has the same conclusion. Death remains an imminent part of the definition and the threat of a life cut short always lurks within its context.

An Imminent Death

The first theory goes back to the middle ages and practices of a public hanging. One would have to stand on a bucket with a noose, and when the bucket is kicked, the person would automatically strangle to death.

The second theory argues that after death, usually holy water is placed in a bucket at the feet of the body. When people came to visit for mourning, they would sprinkle the holy water on the body.

Most people think it is adapted from the movie “The Bucket List” by scriptwriter Justin Zackham.

Squeeze More Life Out Of Your Life With A Bucket List

“Here’s something to remember when you’re older Thomas – never pass up a bathroom, never waste a hard-on, and never trust a fart.” – Edward Cole from the movie Bucket List

So wherever it came from, a bucket list is essentially a list of activities someone wants to do before they die. Or, a list of things a person wants to do before they “kick the bucket.”

What Is A Bucket List?

For our purposes let’s expand our definition of bucket list. Let’s use, a list of all the goals you want to achieve, things you want to try, and life experiences you want to have before you die.

Throw the term “bucket list” out, and the usual suspects spring to mind. Things like dinner at one of the world’s top restaurants, travel experiences, and breathtaking hot-air balloon rides. But it might be time you hit the reset button.

No one is suggesting that these are not amazing things to do before you die. The suggestion is that your bucket list could do with a few more eye-opening and meaningful activities.

It might be time to turn your bucket list into an extraordinary one.

Squeeze More Life Out Of Your Life With A Bucket List

“Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” – Michael Jordan

Besides, it is experiences and not possessions that will make you the happiest. And that is a notion that even science agrees with.

Why Have A Bucket List?

Whether you want to call it a Bucket List or a “To Experience” list, I think everyone should have one. And here is why:

  • You stop and reflect on what experiences you actually want in your lifetime.
  • Everyone benefits from understanding that life is short and we should strive to live to its fullest.
  • Bucket lists give us both hope and curiosity. And these are two essential ingredients for happiness. So then logically, bucket lists increase our happiness.

If your bucket list needs a major revision or you haven’t written your list yet, take a look at some of these suggestions before you put pen to paper.

The piece I read suggested that this generation of fifty-somethings are plotting dramatic changes during their golden years. Definitely no pipe and slippers-style retirement for them.

Squeeze More Life Out Of Your Life With A Bucket List

“There are two ways to face the future. One way is with apprehension; the other is with anticipation.” – Jim Rohn

I loved the list because it offered a peek into the weird and wonderful plans which many over-55s currently have.

Achieving Goals

A point that warms my heart, over half of those who took part said they were confident they WILL achieve their goals. You have to love optimism, especially in later life.

This shows that retirement isn’t what it used to be. Rather than kicking back and taking it easy, many are looking forward to having more freedom and taking on new projects and hobbies.

And 78% believe having life goals is important. In the demanding world we live in, it is easy to get caught up in the rat race and end up not doing a lot of things we wished for.

Whether it’s helping someone out unconditionally or trekking to a Mount Everest base camp, these experiences give us valuable insights into our own lives.

Overall 81% of the over 2,000 adults over 55 who were polled said they ‘felt younger’ than their actual age. And 82% said they wanted a goal to aim for.

Squeeze More Life Out Of Your Life With A Bucket List

“If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page.” – Mark Houlahan

Only 17% feel their actual age or older. And 32% want to show that, regardless of their age, they can do anything they want.

Over 70% admitted they had a bucket list.

The main issues preventing Brits from enjoying activities on their bucket lists are time or financial issues, along with a feeling they may now be past it or too old.

As voices of experience, about three quarters said they felt it was ‘important’ to have goals and ambition in life.

The Top 30 Life Goals

It’s better to do the things you want to do NOW, then to pile them up on a “someday list”. Having a bucket list is to have a life and utilise it fully before it’s knocked off from under your feet!

Here are the TOP 30 LIFE GOALS , according to the study conducted via OnePoll.com.

  • Travel more
  • Visit Australia
  • Learn a foreign language
  • Retire
  • Drive along Route 66 in America
  • Move abroad
  • Downsize my home
  • Go to more gigs and concerts
  • Pay off the mortgage
  • Eat in a Michelin-star restaurant
  • Volunteer for a charity
  • Buy a sports car
  • Take up painting
  • Learn to play the guitar
  • Learn to swim
  • Get a personal trainer
  • Have liposuction or a tummy tuck
  • Get a degree
  • Climb a mountain
  • Get a six-pack
  • Start dating again
  • Do a skydive
  • Run a marathon
  • Have an affair
  • Get a tattoo
  • Buy a motorbike
  • Get remarried
  • Have my kids move out
  • Get a divorce
  • Try online dating

Now It’s Time For Your Bucket List

Let’s get started with creating your bucket list so you can begin to execute some of the amazing things that you have been desperate to try.

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“The big secret in life is that there is no big secret. Whatever your goal, you can get there if you’re willing to work.” – Oprah Winfrey

Earlier I mentioned about helping someone out unconditionally. And while we all lead busy lives and complain that we have barely enough time for ourselves, there is more to be gained from being nice to others than not.

In fact, performing random acts of kindness to those around us has a lot of positive side effects. It makes us happier, gives us healthier hearts and it also has a fountain of youth effect.

This feel-good factor triggers a biochemical reaction that elevates levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine in our brains. So we get a natural high that is known as the ‘helper’s high.’

Oxytocin

An amazing physiological response ensues. This emotional warmth produces oxytocin which slows the ageing process.

The reduction in free radicals levels reduces inflammation in the cardiovascular system, slowing ageing.

So why not add random acts of kindness to your bucket list? It feels good, and it’s good for you too.

If you want to live a life packed full of achievement, adventure, fun, and success you need to dream big dreams. And, the first step is to create a bucket list.

Squeeze More Life Out Of Your Life With A Bucket List

“If you are growing, then you are always going to be out of our comfort zone.” – David Brett-Williams

Step 1: Dreamstorm Your Bucket List

Dreamstorming is the first step in creating your bucket list. It is a combination of dreaming and brainstorming.

On a large piece of paper commit all of your ideas to print. And here is the key, you need to remove all limits.

That means allowing your mind to be as free as possible.

This step is all about putting down every single idea that pops into your head. No filters and no labels. Nothing is crazy, or impossible, or silly. You just need to write it down.

When you allow mind to be free, it’s amazing what ideas will come out. Are you ready? Let’s Go!

Step 2: Your Bucket List Teammate(s)

You don’t have to make your entire list with a teammate, but there are advanages to sharing certain items with someone else. There are to having similar items to travel buddies or spouses so you can do things together.

Splitting expenses by finding a partner in crime for the bigger and more costly activities has many advantages.

Step 3: The Bucket List Top Three

Time for you to turn some of those dreams into reality and creating your list can be almost as much fun as completing it.

Some people get overwhelmed looking at their long list and thinking about how they will complete them all. What a great problem to have!

“Good afternoon. My name is Edward Cole. I don’t know what most people say at these occasions because in all honesty, I’ve tried to avoid them. The simplest thing is I loved him and I miss him. Carter and I saw the world together, which is amazing when you think that only three months ago we were complete strangers. I hope that it doesn’t sound selfish of me, but the last months of his life were the best months of mine. He saved my life, and he knew it before I did. I’m deeply proud that this man found it worth his while to know me. In the end, I think it’s safe to say that we brought some joy to one another’s lives, so one day, when I go to some final resting place, if I happen to wake up next to a certain wall with a gate, I hope that Carter’s there to vouch for me and show me the ropes on the other side.” – Carter Chambers from the movie Bucket List

Just pick 3 items from your list to work on the planning. Yeah, only 3 for now. Any more than that and the feelings of overwhelm creep in.

How To Pick Your Top Three

Scanning your list, what excites you the most? Take note of the items that make your heart beat a bit faster.

Got your top three? Now it’s time for the first steps of planning. Ask yourself these questions:

Who: Do you need a partner or are you flying solo?

When: What time of day? When does this need to happen? Great to get specific!

Where: Where are you going and how will you get there?

How: How do you complete this item? How much do you need to save?

What: What is your very first step? What do you need to do to make this happen?

Now get out there and do it.

If you follow this model it will help you complete every single item on your bucket list.

Here are a few items on my bucket list. Maybe it will give you some inspiration for your list.

  • Visit every continent
  • Make my own jewellery
  • Go on an African safari
  • Break a Guiness Book world record
  • Stay in an over-the-water bungalow on a tropical island

Share your first three bucket list items with me right NOW!

  • 30 October, 2018
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Learn To Identify And Solve Any Problem

It might be self-evident, but to solve a problem we first need to identify it. And there is no need to compliment me on my mastery of the obvious.

I say that because a lot of us will continue to toil in the midst of a problem but never identify it as a problem. And if we don’t identify it as a problem, we won’t look to solve it.

We all know problems are a pain and a drain on our energy and motivation. So the faster we identify the problem and then choose a plan of action to deal with it the better. That way problems become less of a problem.

Learn To Identify And Solve A Problem

“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” – Soren Kierkegaard

It can be helpful to think of a problem as a curve in the road. If you take it right then, you will find yourself in good shape for the straight road that lies ahead. But, if you take it too fast, you might not be in great shape.

Identify The Issues

Start by identifying the issues. You need to be entirely clear about what the problem is. And it is important to remember that different people will have a different viewpoint of what the issues are.

Sometimes we confuse the issues and the interests. And understanding everyone’s interests is a critical step that is usually missing in problem-solving.

Understand Everyone’s Interests

Let’s define interests as the needs that you would like satisfied by your chosen solution. Frequently, we ignore our true interests as we overly focus on one particular solution.

Learn To Identify And Solve A Problem

“Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced.” – James Baldwin

It isn’t easy to find the right solution. I like to think of the best solution as the one that satisfies the most people’s interests.

All of this may be unfamiliar to you, so don’t worry if it feels uncomfortable at first. This is life, you will encounter many problems, so you will have lots of opportunities to practice!

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  • 23 October, 2018
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How To Free Yourself From Being Unmotivated

Do you ever feel unmotivated? That you aren’t living your life to the fullest? In the hustle and bustle of modern living, it can sometimes feel like an uphill struggle to get on with the things you care about the most.

We live in a society that condemns ‘laziness’, and yet we’re bombarded with technology and products that promise to do everything for us, leading us to feel unfulfilled and unmotivated.

It’s Time To Take Back Control

The most frustrating part of feeling unmotivated is that it is part of a vicious cycle of behaviour. We feel unmotivated, so we don’t get things done.

And then we feel bad about not getting things done, so we label ourselves as a failure. Which leads us right back to feeling unmotivated and aimless.

To break out of this unhappy cycle, you need to change the mindset that got you there in the first place. All change, big and small, begins in mind.

Heartbeat

“My dad encouraged us to fail. Growing up, he would ask us what we failed at that week. If we didn’t have something, he would be disappointed. It changed my mindset at an early age that failure is not the outcome, failure is not trying. Don’t be afraid to fail.” – Sara Blakely

If your mindset is negative, then you’re already setting yourself up for failure. You are setting yourself up to be unmotivated.

You have the potential to live an outstanding life, but first thing’s first: we need to get you in the right headspace.

Perhaps you’re struggling with menial day-to-day tasks, or you can’t kick yourself into gear in your professional life. Or you can’t seem to get started on that personal project you’ve been thinking about.

All areas of life can be negatively affected by an unproductive mindset. When you change your mindset, remove the mental block, then you’ll start noticing big changes.

Here is a guide to kickstart your brain into a happier, more productive mode so you can stop putting it off, stop being unmotivated and start living your best life today.

Find Your Passion

The first step towards adjusting your mindset is to find your passion. There is no point trying to trick yourself into caring. If you’re not interested, your brain will struggle to stay motivated.

Find your focus and motivation will follow.

Heartbeat

“We need to make sure we’re all working together to change mindsets, to change attitudes, and to fight against the bad habits that we have as a society.” – Justin Trudeau

This might sound obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people spend their lives trying to force themselves into a productive mindset without ever considering whether the end goal is something they care about. And they stay unmotivated.

When we say ‘passion’, we don’t mean that everyone must have an underlying all-consuming desire to save turtles in Costa Rica. Although if you do, good on you but remember the sunscreen!

But everyone has things they care about. And it’s a great place to start when you’re feeling down and unmotivated. Dedicate some time to quietly sitting down with a pen and paper, and working out what makes you tick.

The Importance of Pleasure Sources

We are not born with an innate, singular passion. There are probably many, many things that could potentially be your passion, and these will change and evolve over time.

How To Free Yourself From Being Unmotivated

“The colossal misunderstanding of our time is the assumption that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change.” – Edwin H Friedman

The first step for discovering your passion, and thereby change your mindset, is to re-route your pleasure sources. By this, we are referring to dopamine.

This is the chemical in the brain, called a neurotransmitter, that produces feelings of pleasure when it is released.

Today, it’s easy to get a dopamine fix while being in a relatively passive state. We can watch TV on demand, browse the internet for hours, drink, smoke and eat readymade food that takes just minutes to prepare.

What do all these sources of pleasure have in common? They require no action on our part.

We are not putting any work into creating something, but we are receiving the pleasure sensation anyway. The brain feels like it has received a reward without having to put in any effort to feel that pleasure.

Still Unmotivated?

Sadly, and maybe surprisingly, this is the basis of addiction, not passion.

If you reduce your consumption of these pleasure sources, your brain will be forced to find dopamine elsewhere.

By limiting the amount of TV, internet, junk food, alcohol or drug consumption, you will start to notice other things that please you. And so you’ll be on track to discovering what you’re genuinely passionate about.

Unmotivated

“My greatest challenge has been to change the mindset of people. Mindsets play strange tricks on us. We see things the way our minds have instructed our eyes to see.” – Muhammad Yunus

The next step is merely to try out lots of different things. Compile a list of hobbies that seem even remotely interesting to you, and give them a go.

Photography, dance, gardening, cooking, walking, playing sport and drawing are all hobbies with lots of branches leading off into different directions. So why not give one of them a go?

If it turns out you’re not that interested, move on to something else. These are all creative ways to help you find your passion, which will stimulate the dopamine that your brain needs to stay focused and motivated.

Once you’ve reduced the amount of dopamine you receive from passive consumption and start embracing more creative outlets, whatever they may be, your mindset will automatically shift into a more positive and productive gear.

And other areas in your life will start to benefit from the effects.

Change Negative Habits

We’re not born with an unproductive mindset, so what is at the root of this self-limiting way of thinking?

The answer is simple, although not always easy to hear: negative habits. We’re not talking here about the surface habits you might have picked up over time.

Things like nail-biting, swearing or dependence on addictive substances. Although you can apply the following advice to these habits, too.

How To Free Yourself From Being Unmotivated

“Man is by nature restless. When left too long in one place he will inevitably grow bored, unmotivated, and unproductive.” – Ricardo Semler

No, we are talking about the negative thought patterns that have been visited so often that they have become habits. Habitual negative thinking is at the core of all your unproductive behaviour. And, just like any habit, it can be broken.

If you’re serious about getting rid of your unproductive mindset, you need to be completely honest with yourself about the negative thoughts that have got you to this point.

Habitually negative thoughts can lead to a negative perception of self, and a misguided sense of purpose or lack thereof. A life purpose or passion has the power to boost your productivity and direction, but to do that, you must start small.

To break out of old ways of thinking that are holding you back, follow these four steps.

Distance Yourself from Your Thoughts

Negative thoughts limit your capacity to grow, change and achieve the life you deserve. If you force yourself to stand witness to your negative thoughts and separate yourself and your potential from them, you are already on the way to getting rid of them.

Be Honest With Yourself

Look at the thoughts that you have just written down. This will enable you to compartmentalise and see that these are just thoughts. They are not you.

How To Free Yourself From Being Unmotivated

“If your mind is anything like mine, it can stumble through a half-dozen different thoughts in a heartbeat.” – Anthony Doerr

You might find it helpful to write down all the thoughts and feelings you have about yourself. You may well discover that you have been holding on to negative thoughts about yourself for a long time.

Being conscious of the fact that you are not your thoughts is a crucial step on the path to self-discovery and becoming more productive.

Discard Thoughts That Aren’t Helpful

Once you’ve compartmentalised these negative thoughts, it’s time to pick and choose which ones you want to act on. If a thought isn’t positively serving you, you can choose to ignore it.

This is simple, but not easy, and takes time and practice to get right. But merely becoming aware of the negative thoughts in the first place is a great starting point.

Be Kind To Yourself

All our behaviour stems from our sense of self and self-worth. And with a low sense of self-worth comes a negative and unproductive mindset.

And this, in turn, leads to behaviour that doesn’t serve your best interests. Stop judging yourself or feeling bad for having the thoughts you do.

How To Free Yourself From Being Unmotivated

“My greatest challenge has been to change the mindset of people. Mindsets play strange tricks on us. We see things the way our minds have instructed our eyes to see.” – Muhammad Yunus

Instead, try to treat yourself with the compassion and understanding you would have for a friend or loved one. This will put you in a commanding position for dealing with a negative mindset, and put you on the right track for a happier and healthier life.

Practise Self Love

Often, we condemn ourselves for being lazy or unproductive. Regardless of whether it’s true or not, this attitude will get you nowhere for actually changing your behaviour.

You can be hard on yourself for your perceived shortcomings, or you can practise self-love.

And we don’t mean the kind of self-love you might have heard of. I am not referring to looking at yourself in the mirror and telling yourself how beautiful you are.

No, I am talking about the art of giving yourself a break.

Once you start practising self-love, you will start to notice your mindset will relax and you will become freer to get out and DO, rather than floundering in a state of unproductive limbo.

Here are five outstanding tips for how to best practise self-love and regain control of your mindset:

Manage Your Expectations

A vital part of self-love is to manage your expectations and not to set yourself unrealistically high standards. Expecting too much of yourself will only set you on the path to disappointment.

And this fuels the negative image of yourself that you already have in your mind.
There is no such thing as perfect. Instead of being hard on yourself, learn to accept your natural imperfection. You’ll feel more relaxed and able to get on with things.

Stop Multitasking

Avoid doing too much at once. Yes, multitasking is lauded as a valuable skill.

But doing lots of things at the same time means that nothing will have your full attention so that nothing can get done properly. Take your time, start small and dedicate your mind to one task at a time.

Trust Yourself

To start acting, and stop thinking, you need to believe in yourself. You know yourself better than anyone else in the world. And you alone have the power to break out of unhelpful ways of thinking.

How To Free Yourself From Being Unmotivated

“You don’t get better on the days when you feel like going. You get better on the days when you don’t want to go, but you go anyway. If you can overcome the negative energy coming from your tired body or unmotivated mind, you will grow and become better.” – Georges St-Pierre

You need to forgive yourself for past mistakes and be completely honest with yourself about where you’ve gone wrong and where you want to be. Once you trust yourself, positivity and productivity will follow.

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

True confidence begins when you stop caring what others think of you. Or, more accurately, what you perceive others think of you.

Stop looking for external validation. You are the only validation you need, and you are the only one who has the right to judge yourself.

Make Time for Yourself

In the hectic world, we live in; our happiness can take a back seat to seemingly more pressing matters. But your finances, career, social life and personal projects will all suffer if you don’t take a moment to relax and enjoy your own company.

Don’t ever feel bad about giving yourself a break to recharge and recentre. Take a bath, go for a walk, eat some of your favourite food.

Allowing yourself to relax and unwind will increase your sense of self-worth and help build a stronger, more productive mindset in your day-to-day life.

It is incredible that all your potential and capacity for happiness can be traced back to one simple thing: your mindset. This knowledge is both exciting and daunting. You and only you can change your life.

I hope you find these tips for freeing yourself from being unmotivated as a positive step in the right direction. Start small, stay positive and start living the outstanding life you deserve today.

  • 10 October, 2018
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9 Easy Ways to Counter Negative Self-Talk

When you free yourself of negative self-talk, you will free yourself from perfectionism. You will honour and accept the mistakes you make.

Don’t kid yourself, self-sabotage is an actual thing.

We make a mistake, reflect on it, and then feel guilty, and unintentionally dig ourselves into a deeper and darker hole.

And many of us repeat this cycle far too often.

And that negative side of our thinking doesn’t help.

Even if you hear that critical inner voice saying “you deserved that” the real answer is, “No! You didn’t.”

We should all be empowered, fearless and happy when working towards our dreams.

Effects of Negative Self-Talk

Effects of Negative Self-Talk

Obviously, there is the low self-esteem that comes from negative self-talk. But there are also detrimental physical effects linked to self-criticism.

The world of personal development is filled with teachers who claim that self-critical thoughts are not confined to the mind.

In fact, their effect permeates every cell in our body, and this wreaks havoc on our physiology.

And they are 100% correct. There is now a body of research showing that adverse psychological events raise cortisol levels.

High cortisol levels are associated with anxiety, depression and irritability.

Low immune function, raised blood glucose levels, elevated blood pressure, weight gain, fatigue and muscle weakness are also found to occur in people with high cortisol levels.

This is serious because persisting with daily negative self-talk forces the body to live in fight-or-flight mode.

And this inhibits nearly every natural function.

Causes of Negative Self-Talk

Causes of Negative Self-Talk

Many people feel that negative self-talk just happens.

However, it is something that you actively do. It is an activity your brain generates automatically. And it becomes a habit.

Think of it as an autopilot response.

Following years of being criticised by a sibling, parent, or another significant figure the habit of negative self-talk is adopted.

For many, this happens as early as childhood.

Psychology has a phenomenon known as an introject. These are internal representations of the people who raised us.

If a child has a critical parent, they begin to internalise that parent.

The end result is the child carries around a self-critical inner voice that behaves exactly the same way the parent does.

That critical parent becomes a part that child.

How to Overcome Negative Self-Talk

Overcoming negative self-talk is straightforward. However, two things are required to happen:

1) Heal the underlying reasons for the self-criticism.

To overcome negative self-talk you need to integrate the introject in a healthy, compassionate way.

When the underlying issues have been resolved, the critical parent naturally fades.

The issues to deal with may have to do with anger, forgiveness, individuation, and learning to dismiss the assessment of others who have an agenda and to trust your own self-assessment more.

2) Develop a strategy to shift out of autopilot.

When you heal the underlying reasons for criticising yourself, you get left with the habit.

And as you already know, some habits can be tough to break.

Solutions for Negative self-talk

Here are three ideas that may help.

Most people seek to resist their inner critic. And get caught in a vicious cycle.

They begin to criticise themselves for continuing to be self-critical.

You need to let that go and stop fighting.

The healing process we mentioned earlier starts with greater self-awareness and consciousness.

In summary, just listen. Don’t fight back or resist. Hear yourself out.

And don’t judge. Be patient and listen to that critical inner voice for what it is.

When you do, it loses much of its power.

Say to yourself, “I have a critical inner voice that is saying…” Then you get to repeat what your inner critic said.

Don’t judge, just listen, and repeat.

Prepare to be amazed at the objectivity this simple technique provides you.

Time to turn the tables entirely on your inner critic and ask for more feedback. Yes, more criticism.

And when you get more just do what we suggested earlier.

Listen, repeat and then ask for even more feedback.

The concept centres on raising your conscious awareness of what is actually going on inside your own head.

When you gain conscious awareness, then you can begin to control it and avoid going into autopilot mode.

When your inner critic no longer controls your thought processes, then it is time to move on.

Turn your attention to something outside of your own thinking.

Focus on how the temperature of the air feels.

Or how the weight of your body feels as you walk or sit in a chair.

Embrace the sounds around you by being quiet and extend your hearing as far as you can.

Doing activities like this is inherently calming and helps you embrace greater mindfulness.

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