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July 2018

101 Positive Life Quotes to Close The Distance Between Your Dreams And Reality

Positive Life Quotes and energy are the boosts you need to jump start a hard day. We all have dreams. You might call them aspirations or plans. But everyone one of us wants to accomplish things.

These positive life quotes originate as an idea in our mind. We then start working on them, developing them. We might come up with a plan for how to make it happen.

It will take more than our thoughts or positive life quotes to move that idea from our mind and make it happen in the real world. We need something extra to make the ethereal concrete.

That something extra is called action.

Without action, we have ideas, plans, intentions, and thoughts, but no results.

Without action, we have nothing real, nothing concrete.

“The distance between your dreams and reality is called action.” – Unknown

What action are you willing to take to close the distance between your dreams and reality? You don’t have to achieve your goals in one day. You can make a small step, but you need to take action. Start by selecting of the 101 positive life quotes from this article and choose to write it down on the last page of your notebook, or even better save it as a wallpaper for your phone.

If you have a dream, write down a few steps, even small ones, which you can take towards making it a reality. Then select one and do it.

Later would be better than never. And sooner would be better than later. While now would be even better still.

Positive Life Quotes that will make a difference on your attitude and thinking.

#1-11 | Positive Life Quotes to develop a positive mindset

#1 – Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who’ll argue with you. – John Wooden

John Wooden Positive life quotes

John Wooden quote

#2 – I love it when people doubt me. It makes me work harder to prove them wrong.

-Derek Jeter

Derek Jeter Positive life quotes

Derek Jeter quote

#3 – I truly believe in positive synergy, that your positive mindset gives you a more hopeful outlook, and belief that you can do something great means you will do something great. – Russell Wilson

Russell Wilson Positive Life Quotes

Russell Wilson Quote

#4 – The more you are positive and say “I want to have a good life,” the more you build that reality for yourself by creating the life that you want. – Chris Pine

Chris Pine positive Life Quotes

Chris Pine Quote

#5 – Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do. – Chris Pine

Chris Pine Positive Life Quotes'

Chris Pine Quote’

#6 – The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is  direction not a destination.

– Carl Rogers

Carl Rogers Positive Life Quotes

Carl Rogers Quote

#7 – Work like you don’t need the money. Love like you’ve never been hurt. Dance like nobody’s watching. – Satchel Paige

Satchel Paige Positive Life Quotes

Satchel Paige Quote

#8 – A dream doesn’t  become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work. – Colin Powell

Colin Powell Positive life quotes

Colin Powell Quote

#9 – Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking. – Marcus Aurelius

Marcus Aurelius Positive Life Quotes

Marcus Aurelius Quote

#10 – Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don’t give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround Yourself with happy, warm and genuine people.

– Tena Desae

 Tena Desae positive life quotes

Tena Desae Quote

#11 – 20 | Positive Life Quotes which will brighten up your day

#11 – Never stop fighting until you arrive at your destined place – that is, the unique you. Have an aim in life, continuously acquire knowledge, work hard, and have perseverance to realize the great life. – A.P.J. Abdul Kalam

A.P.J. Abdul Kalam positive life quotes

A.P.J. Abdul Kalam Quote

#12 – The definition of success to me is not necessarily a price tag, not fame, but having a good life, and being able to say I did the right thing at the end of the day.

– Jeremy Luke

Jeremy Luke positive life quotes

Jeremy Luke Quote

#13 – Stay true to yourself, yet always be open to learn. Work hard, and never give up on your dreams, even when nobody else believes they can come true but you. These are not cliches but real tools you need no matter what you do in life to stay focused on your path. – Phillip Sweet

Phillip Sweet positive life quotes

Phillip Sweet Quote

#14 – Life flies by, and it’s easy to get lost in the blur. In adolescence, it’s “How do i fit in?” In your 20s, it’s “What do I want to do?” In your 30s, “Is this what I’m meant to do?” I think the trick is living the questions. not worrying so much about what’s ahead but rather sitting in the grey area – being OK with where you are. – Chris Pine

Chris Pine positive life quotes

Chris Pine Quote

#15 – Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. – Steve jobs

Steve jobs positive life quotes

Steve jobs Quote

#16 – It’s all about quality of life and finding a happy balance between work and friends and family. – Philip Green

Philip Green positive life quotes

Philip Green Quote

#17 – Life is full of happiness and tears; be strong and have faith.

– Kareena Kapoor Khan

Kareena Kapoor Khan positive life quotes

Kareena Kapoor Khan Quote

#18 – Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come. – Dwayne Johnson

Dwayne Johnson positive life quotes

Dwayne Johnson Quote

#19 – The price if success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand. – Vince Lombardi

Vince Lombardi positive life quotes

Vince Lombardi Quote

#20 – My mission in life is not merely to survive, but thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. – Maya Angelou

Maya Angelou positive life quotes

Maya Angelou Quote

#21 – 30 | Positive Life Quotes that are not cliches

#21 – Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed no hope at all. – Dale Carnegie

Dale Carnegie positive life quotes

Dale Carnegie Quote

#22 – Work hard, stay positive, and get up early. It’s the best part of the day.

– George Allen Sr.

George Allen Sr. positive life quotes

George Allen Sr. Quote

#23 – Life is like a roller coaster, live it, be happy, enjoy life. – Avril Lavigne

Avril Lavigne positive life quotes

Avril Lavigne Quote

#24 – Work hard for what you want because it won’t come to you without a fight. you have to be strong and courageous and know that you can do anything you put your mind to. If somebody puts you down or criticizes you, just keep on believing in yourself and turn it into something positive. – Leah LaBelle

Leah LaBelle positive life quotes

Leah LaBelle Quote

#25 – I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. – Robin Williams

Robin Williams positive life quotes

Robin Williams Quote

#26 – Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did. – Newt Gingrich

Newt Gingrich positive life quotes

Newt Gingrich Quote

#27 – Each life is made up of mistakes and learning, waiting and growing, practicing patience and being persistent. – Billy Graham

Billy Graham positive life quotes

Billy Graham Quote

#28 – Self- Belief and hard work will always earn you success. – Virat Kohli

Virat Kohli positive life quotes

Virat Kohli Quote

#29 – Whatever you do, do with determination. You have one life to live; do your work with passion and give your best. Whether you want to be a chef, doctor, actor, or a mother, be passionate to get the best result. – Alia Bhatt

Alia Bhatt positive life quotes

Alia Bhatt Quote

#30 – Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe. – Gail Devers

Gail Devers positive life quotes

Gail Devers Quote

#31 – 40 | Positive Life Quotes that will change you (forever)

#31 – To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funny bone. – Reba McEntire

Reba McEntire positive life quotes

Reba McEntire Quote

#32 – He who is not courageous enough to take risks will accomplish nothing in life.

-Muhammad Ali

Muhammad Ali positive life quotes

Muhammad Ali Quote

#33 – Follow you passion, be prepared to work hard and sacrifice, and, above all, don’t let anyone limit your dreams. – Denovan Bailey

Denovan Bailey positive life quotes

Denovan Bailey Quote

#34 – Each life is made up of mistakes and learning, waiting and growing, practicing patience and being persistent. – Billy Graham

Billy Graham positive life quotes'

Billy Graham Quote’

#35 – I truly believe in positive synergy, that your positive mindset gives you a more hopeful outlook, and belief that you can do something great means you will do something great. – Russell Wilson

Russell Wilson positive life quotes

Russell Wilson Quote

#36 – Personal discipline, when it becomes a way of life in our personal, family, and career lives, will enable us to do some incredible things. – Zig Ziglar

Zig Ziglar positive life quotes

Zig Ziglar Quote

#37 – I describe my career path as a zigzag, not a ladder. – Denise Morrison

Denise Morrison positive life quotes

Denise Morrison Quote

#38 – believe in yourself, and the rest will fall into place. have faith in your own abilities, work hard, and there is nothing you cannot accomplish. – Brad Henry

Brad Henry positive life quotes

Brad Henry Quote

#39 – Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don;t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like. – Lao Tzu

Lao Tzu positive life quotes

Lao Tzu Quote

#40 – Luck is great, but most of life is hard work. – Iain Duncan Smith

Iain Duncan Smith positive life quotes

Iain Duncan Smith Quote

#41 – 50 | Positive Life Quotes for living an outstanding life

#41 – I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let’s face it, friends make life a lot more fun. – Charles R. Swindoll

Charles R. Swindoll positive life quotes

Charles R. Swindoll Quote

#42 – I believe that we all have a responsibility to give back. No one becomes successful without lots of hard work, support from others, and a little luck. Giving back creates a virtuous cycle that makes everyone more successful. – Ron Conway

Ron Conway positive life quotes

Ron Conway Quote

#43 – All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthen me… You may not realize it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you. – Walt Disney

Walt Disney positive life quotes

Walt Disney Quote

#44 – Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun’s rays do not burn until brought to a focus. – Alexander Graham Bell

Alexander Graham Bell positive life quotes

Alexander Graham Bell Quote

#45 – Life is short, and we should respect every moment of it. – Orhan Pamuk

Orhan Pamuk positive life quote

Orhan Pamuk Quote

#46 – Once you have commitment, you need the discipline and hard work to get you there. – Haile Gebrselassie

Haile Gebrselassie positive life quotes

Haile Gebrselassie Quote

#47 – I’ve always had to prove myself to people growing up. I had to show them that I could do this and I could do that and paying no mind to what the critics said.

– Russell Westbrook

 Russell Westbrook positive life quote

Russell Westbrook  Quote

#48 – Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don’t recognize them. – Ann Landers

Ann Landers positive life quotes

Ann Landers Quote

#49 – The regret of my life is that I have not said “I love you” often enough.

– Yoko One

Yoko One positive life quotes

Yoko One Quote

#50 – Life is growth. If we stop growing, technically and spiritually, we are as good as dead. – Morihei Ueshiba

Morihei Ueshiba positive mindset quote

Morihei Ueshiba Quote

#51 – 60 | Positive Life Quotes to inspire success in your life

#51 – You just have to find that thing that’s special about you that distinguishes you from all the others, and through true talent, hard work, and passion, anything can happen. – Dr. Dre

Dr. Dre positive life quote

Dr. Dre Quote

#52 – Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing. – Theodore Roosevelt

Theodore Roosevelt positive life quotes

Theodore Roosevelt Quote

#53 – Focused, hard work is the real key to success. Keep your eyes on the goal, and just keep taking the next step towards completing it. If you aren’t sure which way to do something, do it both ways and see which works better. – John Carmack

John Carmack positive life quote

John Carmack Quote

#54 – All growth depends upon activity. There is no development physically or intellectually without effort, and effort means work. – Calvin Coolidge

Calvin Coolidge positive life quotes

Calvin Coolidge Quote

#55 – Whatever you do, do it with all your might. Work at it, early and late, in season and out of season, not leaving a stone unturned, and never deferring for a single hour that which can be done just as well now. – P. T. Barnum

P. T. Barnum positive life quotes

P. T. Barnum Quote

#56 – I have no idols. I admire work, dedication and competence. – Ayrton Senna

Ayrton Senna positive life quotes

Ayrton Senna Quote

#57 – Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it. – Henry Ford

Henry Ford positive life quotes

Henry Ford Quote

#58 – Life comes from physical survival; but the good life comes from what we care about. – Rollo May

Rollo May positive life quotes

Rollo May Quote

#59 – I think it’s healthy for a person to be nervous. It means you care – that you work hard and want to give a great performance. You just have to channel that nervous energy into the show. – Beyonce Knowies

Beyonce Knowies positive life quotes

Beyonce Knowies Quote

#60 – Working hard and working smart sometimes can be two different things.

– Byron Dorgan

Byron Dorgan positive life quotes

Byron Dorgan Quote

#61 – 70 | Positive Life Quotes to motivate you everyday

#61 – The best things in life are often waiting for you at the exit ramp of your comfort zone. – Karen Salmansohn

Karen Salmansohn positive life quotes

Karen Salmansohn Quote

#62 – I feel like a tiger right now. There’s nothing impossible if you get up and work for it. – Michael Flatley

Michael Flatley positive life quotes

Michael Flatley Quote

#63 – Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This s the way to success.

– Swami Vivekananda

Swami Vivekananda positive life quotes

Swami Vivekananda Quote

#64 – Reading is a basic tool in the living of a good life. – Joseph Addison

Joseph Addison positive life quotes

Joseph Addison Quote

#65 – Life is about how much you take and keep fighting, how much you can suffer and keep moving forward. – Anderson Silva

Anderson Silva positive life quotes

Anderson Silva Quote

#66 – You try to be yourself, do only what you’ve always done and like to do, and right away, you’re tagged as an oddball. – James Dean

James Dean positive life quotes

James Dean Quote

#67 – At the end of the day, you’re responsible for yourself and your actions and that’s all you can control. So rather than be frustrated with what you can’t control, try to fix the things you can. – Kevin Garnett

Kevin Garnett positive life quotes

Kevin Garnett Quote

#68 – Of course life is bizarre, the more bizarre it gets, the more interesting it is. The only way to approach it is to make yourself some popcorn and enjoy the show.

– David Gerrold

David Gerrold positive life quotes

David Gerrold Quote

#69 – You can make bad choices and find yourself in a downward spiral or you can find something that gets you out of it. – Ray LaMontagne

Ray LaMontagne positive life quotes

Ray LaMontagne Quote

#70 – Analyzing what you haven’t got as well as what you have is a necessary ingredient of a career. – Orison Sewtt Marden

Orison Sewtt Marden positive life quotes

Orison Swett Marden Quote

#71 – 80 | Positive life quotes to get you out of a bad day

#71 – Good things happen to those who hustle. – Chuck Coll

Chuck Coll positive life quotes

Chuck Coll Quote

#72 – Whatever you want in life, other people are going to want it too. Believe in yourself enough to accept the  idea that you have an equal right to it.

– Ray LaMontagne

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Ray LaMontagne Quote’

#73 – What is the recipe for successful achievement? To my mind there are just four essential ingredients: Choose a career you love, give it the best there is in you, seize you opportunities, and be a member of the team. – Benjamin Franklin Fairless

Benjamin Franklin Fairless positive life quotes

Benjamin Franklin Fairless Quote

#74 – Life is an adventure. It’s not a package tour. – Eckhart Talle

Eckhart Talle positive life quotes

Eckhart Talle Quote

#75 – Our prime in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them. – Dalai Lama

Dalai Lama positive life quotes

Dalai Lama Quote

#76 – Our life is what our thoughts make it. – Marcus Aurelius

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Marcus Aurelius Quote’

#76 – Life is measured in love and positive contributions and moments of grace.

– Carly Fiorina

Carly Fiorina positive life quotes

Carly Fiorina Quote

#77 – The story of life is quicker than the blink of an eye, the story of love is hello, goodbye. – Jimi Hendrix

Jimi Hendrix positive life quotes

Jimi Hendrix Quote

#78 – We have always held to the hope, the belief, the conviction that there is a better life, a better world beyond the horizon. – Jimi Hendrix

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Jimi Hendrix Quote’

#79 – Don;t be afraid to be awesome. Sometimes being weird and different is good. When you think you’re working hard, there is always someone else working harder, so always be yourself and know your stuff. – Jacqueline Maclnnes Wood

Jacqueline Maclnnes Wood positive life quotes

Jacqueline Maclnnes Wood Quote

#79 – Life is tough and things don’t always work out well, but we should be brave and go on with our lives. – Suga

Suga positive life quotes

Suga Quote

#80 – Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal. – Henry Ford

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Henry Ford Quote#

#81 – 90 | Positive Life Quotes from famous people

#81 – True wisdom comes to each of us when we realize how little we understand about life, ourselves, and the world around us. – Chuck Noll

Chuck Noll positive life quote images

Chuck Noll Quote’

#82 – Each person must life their life as a model for others. – Rosa Parks

Rosa Parks positive life quotes

Rosa Parks Quote

#83 – My life is like a speeding bullet that just hasn’t hit the target yet. – Kid Cudi

Kid Cudi positive life quotes

Kid Cudi Quote

#84 – Whatever you so in life, surround yourself with smart people who’ll argue with you. – John Wooden

John Wooden positive life quotes

John Wooden Quote

#85 – For my life is continuously being hungry. The meaning of life is not simply to exist, to survive, but to move ahead, to go up, to achieve, to conquer.

– Arnold Schwarzenegger

Arnold Schwarzenegger positive life quotes

Arnold Schwarzenegger Quote

#86 – When life gives you Monday, dip it in glitter and sparkle all day.

– Ella Woodward

Ella Woodward positive life quotes

Ella Woodward Quote

#87 – If you wish to achieve worthwhile things in your personal and career life, you must become a worthwhile person in your own self-development. – Brian Tracy

Brian Tracy positive life quotes

Brian Tracy Quote

#88 – Communication – the human connection – is the key to personal and career success. – Paul. J. Meyer

Paul. J. Meyer positive life quotes

Paul. J. Meyer Quote

#89 – If I went by all the rejection I’ve had in my career, I should have given up a long time ago. If I went by all the rejection I’ve had in my career, I should have given up a long time ago. – Mike Myers

Mike Myers positive life quotes

Mike Myers Quote

#90 – My career is a journey for me, and any journey is incomplete without the struggle. – Yami Gautam

Yami Gautam positive life quotes

Yami Gautam Quote

#91 – 101 | Positive life quotes to remember

#91 – Nothing ever comes to one, that is worth having except as a result of hard work. – Booker T. Washington

Booker T. Washington positive life quotes

Booker T. Washington Quote

#92 – Nothing is written in stone, as a a career is an unpredictable journey.

– Zlatan Ibrahimovic

Zlatan Ibrahimovic positive life quotes

Zlatan Ibrahimovic Quote

#93 – You will always have ups and downs in your life and your career, but just stay positive and go for it. – Angelique Kerber

Angelique Kerber positive life quotes

Angelique Kerber Quote

#94 – It’s better to be a lion for a day than a sheep all your life. – Elizabeth Kenny

Elizabeth Kenny positive life quotes

Elizabeth Kenny Quote

#95 – The best career advice I’ve gotten is to stay focused, keep moving forward.

– Tyga

Tyga positive life quotes

Tyga Quote

#96 – Be patient and understanding life is too short to be vengeful or malicious.

– Philips Brooks

Philips Brooks positive life quotes

Philips Brooks Quote

#97 – Life has been kind to me. I am happy with the love and appreciation that I have been getting throughout my career. I feel blessed. – Vidya Balan

Vidya Balan positive life quotes

Vidya Balan Quote

#98 – Choosing to be positive and having a grateful attitude is going to determine how you’re going to live your life. – Joel Osteen

Joel Osteen positive life quotes

Joel Osteen Quotes

#99 – It takes a career, a lifetime, to build up a reputation, and only one misstep for it all to crumble away. – Aaron Rodgers

Aaron Rodgers positive life quotes

Aaron Rodgers Quote

#100 – Life begins at the end of your comfort zone. – Neale Donald Walsch

Neale Donald Walsch positive life quotes

Neale Donald Walsch Quote

#101 – Whatever you do in life will be insignificant. But is very important that you do it because nobody else will. – Mahatma Gandhi

Mahatma Gandhi positive life quote

Mahatma Gandhi Quote

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Practice Self Forgiveness To Be A Better You

Have you noticed how your feelings can get hurt? Sometimes the transgression can literally cause us to feel some form of physical pain. But we cannot explain why or how it happens.

The pain is just there. Sometimes it can hurt for days. Or it can reappear. Often whenever you recall the memory that caused this hurt.

Frequently, this is a memory of something we have done to ourselves or to someone else that we know now is wrong.

Do you find it easier to forgive yourself or to forgive others? If you are like the majority, it is harder to forgive yourself than to forgive others.

When someone else hurts us, we can turn our anger towards them. And we find some consolation in the pain.

And, as they are not always there with us that reminder of the pain diminishes. So we slowly in time forgive and forget.

Practice Self Forgiveness To Be A Better You

“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes

On the other hand, when we do something wrong, and it is our turn to forgive ourselves, things can get a bit messy.

We hold that anger within us. There is a voice in our head continuously reminding us of what we have done wrong. And, at times, it can seem there’s no way out.

And this is when we need our own forgiveness the most to heal, to move on and to improve.

Once you make a mistake, and you experience regret, you have already learnt from that mistake. And when you learn from your mistakes, you become an improved version of you.

You are not your mistakes

Unfortunately, when you hold on to the painful memory, you won’t let you realise this learning.

You are not your mistakes. True, you made them, but because you realised those were mistakes, you are not the same person. You are now an improved version of you.

Meaning you will not repeat every mistake that you have done. You are not your mistakes anymore.

Therefore, you should stop beating yourself up over it.

Easier said than done, right? No one can beat us up the way we can beat ourselves up over something.

Practice Self Forgiveness To Be A Better You

“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.” – Maya Angelou

But now it is time to stop because it isn’t only harming our mental wellbeing but our physical wellbeing as well.

Forgiveness is effective in healing the body

Scientists are looking into the process of forgiveness, associating it with a

and physical state of being.

In fact, the experts at Stanford University are now conducting studies into the relationship between forgiveness and health and even in the prevention of disease.

The act of forgiveness

The act of forgiveness consists of decreasing your anger towards your misdeeds, the blaming of the offender (you) and taking less personal offence.

It also involves creating an increased understanding of the situation and everything that led to the hurtful deed.

READ: Easy Ways To Make A Big Change In Your Life

You see, it’s not as impossible as you might think. The reason you avoid the act of forgiving is that it is often too hard to confront what you did.

How do you know you need to forgive yourself

Forgiving yourself is the hardest step towards recovery, but it’s the first one that needs to be taken to achieve progress.

When it gets to the point of you not being able to function properly, or any aspect of your wellbeing is disturbed, then it is time to reconsider forgiveness. Be brave and confront what happened.

When you decide you want to be healthier overall, you know it’s time to forgive. You cannot have one without the other because optimal health occurs on a mental and physical level.

Practice Self Forgiveness To Be A Better You

“You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I’m finished with it.’ – Maya Angelou

Being in a constant state of chronic anger disrupts your day-to-day life. Being resentful towards yourself will result in you malfunctioning at some point in your life.

Numerous studies have shown that stress and anger lead to acidosis of the body. Which then creates the perfect environment for cancer, autoimmune disorders, and heart diseases.

You know it is time to turn things around and change when that resentful voice in your head is judging every move and interfering with your life.

Forgiveness depends upon specificity

Feeling anxious or not at peace with yourself means that you are holding something back. Something that requires attention until it is resolved.

When feeling like this, you need to take some time for yourself. Sit down with a pen and paper and start analysing what is bothering you.

You might think you know the event or the memory that is causing all this pain. However, once you start to analyse the entire issue, you’d be surprised at how many other things are beneath it causing you further suffering.

When pain has its advantages

All the signs your body gives you, both physical and psychological, have their advantages. They are there to teach you that you need to change.

Changing means growing. And growth is inevitable for living a more fulfilled, positive life.

Whenever you feel something is off, you should be happy that it’s there to teach you something you hadn’t experienced before.

And when this happens, it means that you are expanding your consciousness and knowledge towards life.

Forgiving is not getting away with it

Confronting the pain and anger, you’re feeling is your punishment. And by doing so, you learn that what you did was wrong and is not to be repeated again.

A lot of people experience guilt while forgiving themselves. As if they should punish themselves for that misdeed. Consider that confronting the pain might be enough punishment.

By forgiving yourself, you are not letting yourself get away with it. Quite the opposite, you are facing your mistakes never to repeat them again.

Complete forgiveness

Forgiveness can never feel complete unless you feel it coming from the other party as well.

Resenting yourself and not being able to forgive yourself can make you feel isolated. This feeling will distance you from those around you even if they are trying to help.

Practice Self Forgiveness To Be A Better You

When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.” – Bernard Meltzer

This is why surrounding yourself with those closest to you and admitting how you feel can make an immense step towards forgiveness.

Understandably, complete forgiveness requires the need to ask the person you wronged to forgive you as well. This way the people and the relationships are transformed in the process, and it ensures never repeating the mistake.

Taking the right steps towards forgiveness

By now you understand how the process of forgiveness ebbs and flows and what it is teaching you. Forgiveness requires plenty of work on yourself, but it is not impossible.

To be at peace with yourself, here are six steps to start working on today:

Realise that the past has passed

This may seem very obvious, but sometimes people are oblivious to the most obvious.

You cannot change the past no matter how hard you try. No matter how many times you’ve replayed the painful memory wishing you had done it differently, it won’t change.

However, by realising it’s unchangeable, you set yourself free and able to undertake the rest of the steps towards forgiveness.

And accepting this leads to emotional healing that you so badly need at the moment.

Question your current values and morals

Realising that now you are not the same person that performed the transgression makes things easier. Back then you may have been oblivious to the consequences, or you were only having a bit of fun.

But as a result, your morals and values have changed. You may no longer act or feel the same way.

Practice Self Forgiveness To Be A Better You

“I had to learn to forgive. I couldn’t sleep at night and I got ulcers. By then I  had to let go, to let God deal with it. No one wants to be mad in their own house. I didn’t want to be angry my whole life. It takes so much energy out of you to be mean.” – Rodney King

By identifying this, you get a clearer picture of what it took for you to change your old ways and become a better person.

Act in accordance with your new morals and values

When you claim that you’re a different person, you’ve changed, and you deserve forgiveness, then start acting in accordance with the new you.

The best way to show yourself and others that you are worthy of forgiveness is to start replacing the negative thoughts and actions with new, positive ones.

The best part is, this leads to a sense of pride which then helps you build bigger self-esteem.

Recreate the situation

Working on yourself on a deeper level requires you to face what’s bothering you to change it.

So why not play that painful memory once again in your mind. Let’s face it, you have done it at least a thousand times already.

But this time write down everything you would have done differently. Write about how it made you feel. Write down all your feelings and memories that come to you.

Then reread them from a third person perspective. As if you are reading someone else’s words and not your own.

Would you judge this person as harshly as you judge yourself?

You did your best at the time

Just as you have realised you now have different morals and values, it is the same thing here. Recognise that back then you made the best decision that you could at the time.

Granted, when you look at it now with the benefit of hindsight it might be a totally crap choice. But given what you knew and who you were at that time, it was the best decision.

Practice Self Forgiveness To Be A Better You

“I believe forgiveness is the best form of love in any relationship. It takes a strong person to say they’re sorry and an even stronger person to forgive.” – Yolanda Hadid

Maybe you lacked the objectivity, understanding or knowledge or perhaps what you did was driven by self-protection. If you have learned from it, then that experience, that pain, was never in vain.

Turning the page towards self-love

The last and arguably the most important step towards forgiveness is the moving on. At one point you need to accept what you’ve done and stop all the suffering by turning a new page.

Make sure you have done everything you can to amend your mistake. And after this, it’s time to put those events in the past and turn to self-love.

Start thinking kind thoughts, include positive affirmations and show yourself compassion. You deserve forgiveness because you are so much more than your mistakes.

If you need, sign up for coaching because external perspective can be instrumental in moving on.

How do you know you have attained forgiveness?

After working on yourself through all these steps, there is a simple test to check if you have really turned the page. Namely, by recalling the memory that once gave you pain.

If it no longer hurts you, you can easily say you’re free of it. Forgiving yourself is the closest you can get to the reset button of everything.

  • 13 July, 2018
  • Personal Development, Professional Development
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9 Health Stats That Will Make You Question What You Do

Warning, this will involve numbers and statistics. I know that most of us have sworn off health stats after suffering through math class, but some figures are too important to ignore.

These health stats could help you to live a longer and happier life, but you need to buck these scary trends.

Here is the first of the troubling health stats. A 500ml soft drink can contain 15 to 18 teaspoons of sugar.

Incredible, isn’t it?

Health Stats

“We all have something about ourselves that we’d change if we could in a perfect world, be it our body image, our financial status, our relationship, whatever. I wanted to talk about how nobody’s exempted from the realities of life and all those things.” – Keri Hilson

Red Bull, Gatorade and many drinks you buy in a bottle, excluding water and milk, have roughly that amount of sugar or some sugary substitute.

That’s from The Harvard School of Public Health, a very reputable source. They did a report on where sugar is hiding in our diet.

Let’s face it, 15 to 18 teaspoons of sugar is not great for any diet.

But, I am afraid there is an even worse aspect.

That Harvard report also says that amount of sugar once a day is enough to raise your diabetes risk by 26 per cent and your heart attack risk by 20 per cent.

So if you drink these regularly then being fat and diabetic is around the corner and a heart attack is waiting for you.

Here is an idea, ditch the sugary drinks.

1. Shopping Health Stats

While I have your attention, here is the next stat. You probably spend more time shopping than exercising.

If you are the average person, you spend just 25 minutes moving your body and 36 minutes every day buying stuff, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS).

I get that a lot of people don’t like exercise. We all know we should, but we don’t.

Shopping Health Stats

“The Internet has transformed many parts of our daily lives, touching everything from how we find information to how we go shopping, get directions, and even stay in touch with friends and family.” – Dean Ornish

Have you considered that physical activity is amongst your best defences against heart disease and several types of cancer?

If so, then you should figure on swapping a few of the minutes you spend on Amazon or eBay for more time in the gym.

So now you have ditched the sugary drinks and are exercising too. What else?

If you are between 25 and 64, you are more likely to die of a drug overdose than a car accident. This from another reputable source, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC).

2. Opioid Health Stats

It seems ridiculous that drug overdoses are that much of a problem. However, drug overdose deaths are up 117 per cent since 1999.

And prescription drugs are usually to blame. The most common culprits of accidental drug overdose are opioids and benzodiazepines.

These are prescription medications typically used to treat pain, anxiety, and insomnia.

But I thought all prescription medications were safe to use? However, pretty much every medication creates an unwanted side effect in the body.

The smart advice is if you have been prescribed opioids or benzos, take them only as directed.

And it is advised to take them for as short a period of time as possible, or you may be putting your life on the line.

3. Food Health Stats

Time for another stat, the average person spends just 17 minutes a day on food prep and cleanup.

It would be wonderful to think that is because we are just really efficient. But we would be kidding ourselves.

Food Health Stats

“The very fact that we are having a national conversation about what we should eat, that we are struggling with the question about what the best diet is, is symptomatic of how far we have strayed from the natural conditions that gave rise to our species, from the simple act of eating real, whole, fresh food.” – Mark Hyman

Every nutrition expert will tell you preparing your own meals with fresh ingredients is paramount to eating a healthy diet.

This reduced time spent on food prep is a shift to eating more takeaways and fast food. And if you want to stay free from disease and slim, steer clear of fast food and spend more time fixing your own grub.

So, now your diet is transformed as we are now dropping the takeaways and the fizzy drinks.

4. GOT Health Stats

When we consider the average person, it turns out they watch more than 3 hours of TV a day. I hear the Game of Thrones fan asking, ‘So what?’

There are so many television-viewing stats thrown around that they may just bounce off your brain. But really think about that number.

That’s 21 hours or almost one full day a week spent doing an unproductive activity. An unproductive activity? Blasphemy you say!

Shave your TV habit by just 60 minutes a day, and think of all you could accomplish with that extra hour.

A study from Columbia University shows more than 2/3 rds of people take less than 20 minutes to finish dinner.

You might ask, ‘What difference does that make?’

People who eat quickly are 84 per cent more likely to be obese than slower-eaters.

There is a large body of research that shows it takes your stomach at least 20 minutes to alert your brain that it’s full.

5. Health Stats To Chew On

Considering those numbers, it means most of us eat so quickly that we do not give our stomachs a chance to tell our brains that we are full. That means a lot of overeating.

As a suggestion, why not slow down and enjoy your food? The benefit is that you will eat less and feel just as satisfied.

As part of your plan, think that the healthy meal that you cooked at home now gets eaten slowly.

Of all the meals that we eat in a day, one stands out as the most important. But, at least 25 per cent of people skip breakfast.

I couldn’t believe that stat from the market research firm NPD Group. Especially as my mum and probably yours too told me that breakfast is the most important meal of the day.

6. Thanks Mum

And Mums are right, at least on this one. Study after study associates eating breakfast with slimmer waistlines.

Eating a good breakfast curbs food consumption later in the day, especially when it comes to sugary treats. And we can thank the University of Missouri for that.

Health Stats

“Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. When you feed yourself what your body needs when it needs it, that’s love. So give your bod some TLC and sit down and enjoy a good, substantial breakfast.” – Kathy Freston

And other research suggests that a morning meal may signal to your body to dump fat, as opposed to storing it.

If you want a good breakfast, aim for lots of protein. Again from those nutritionally-wise people at the University of Missouri.

Many people commute as part of their day. But how much time does the average person spend driving?

People spend an average of 101 minutes a day driving, finds research from the University of California, Berkeley.

7. The Daily Grind

And that is part of many people’s daily grind, but there is a hidden downside to that commute. Your time behind the wheel, especially in traffic, is one of the most common sources of stress.

In fact, a study from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology showed that city driving is as stressful as skydiving.

Health Stats

“If you don’t think your anxiety, depression, sadness and stress impact your physical health, think again. All of these emotions trigger chemical reactions in your body, which can lead to inflammation and a weakened immune system. Learn how to cope, sweet friend. There will always be dark days.” – Kris Carr

We all know that life itself is stressful. Most of us accept that we just have to get on with it.

However, stress reduces your immune function, encourages the spread of cancer, and expands your waistline.

That combines to makes driving one of your unhealthiest habits.

Realistically, I have no other options. You could consider biking or walking when you can.

To say that I am not a fan of smoking is an understatement. I have a sibling who started smoking at 16 and has never been able to stop.

This despite spending the first five minutes after waking coughing up phlegm and having a portion of their vocal cords removed due to oesophageal cancer.

My telling you this raises many questions. And I will deal with this subject, in depth, in a later post.

For now, I will leave you with one thought. You can only help someone that wants to be helped.

You might have the abilities to fix it, to remove their pain. If the other person does not want your help, if they do not want to make that change, then it won’t work.

And it can be heartbreaking.

8. Smoking Health Stats

Everyone knows how awful smoking is for our health, so I am stunned that 1 in 4 people between the ages of 25 and 44 smokes.

And we have known that smoking is harmful to our health for decades.

So what makes people defy common sense and engage in a behaviour that is so damaging to their health?

I accept the addictive qualities of smoking, but why start in the first place?

The last health stat is quite sad. About a quarter of all people have zero close friends to confide in, shows a Duke University study.

9. Friendliness Health Stats

Decades of sociological research show every new generation is more friendless than the last, especially as middle age sets in.

We are evolving to be loners.

And being friendless is a big deal. Because strong social support is better for your health than almost anything else.

And we might dismiss the effect of being ‘Billy No Mates’. But you do so at your own peril.

A study by Brigham Young University found social isolation has a worse effect on your life expectancy than obesity.

And it is not just worse, it is roughly twice as bad for your life expectancy as obesity.

Health Stats

“Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.” – Mother Teresa

So we all need friends. But is there an optimum number of friends for you to stay healthy?

Stats from Oxford University suggests you need at least two to three close friends for optimal health.

Before you lapse into Start Trek mode after all those stats and facts…as Mr Spock would say, “Live long and prosper.” I would like to provide a thought as your virtual mentor.

Why not invite some casual friends over for a home-cooked meal? Then walk to the store to get the groceries. When they arrive, you ditch the fizzy drinks and television for the evening while you eat at a leisurely pace and chat.

Who fancies dinner? I am cooking.

  • 6 July, 2018
  • Personal Development
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