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"Someone doesn't like me."It seems like it doesn't matter how many compliments a person gets, if there's one criticism, you're probably going to dwell on it. That one negative comment might even be holding you back from ever trying again.
"I do everything wrong."This one is a fallacy right out of the gate. No one can do everything wrong. The fact that you're here and breathing says you're doing something right. What this is an example of is that 'all or nothing' thinking that looks at take one mistake or error and using that to determine that you're not able to succeed no matter how hard to you try.
"Anyone could have done that."By downplaying your role, you deny your abilities. There's a time for modesty certainly, but when you take this too far, you start thinking you can't do things well on your own, thereby limiting yourself.
"I failed last time."In this case, you're certain that one failure is automatically going to lead to another. This kind of overgeneralization limits you by making you think that previous experience always has to affect current performance, regardless of what you're doing differently.
"I can't do it."By assuming you can't before you even try, you've already guaranteed your failure. With this kind of brain blockage, you're probably not going to work very hard if you do press on, because subconsciously, you've already determined that it's not worth the effort.
"This feels 'off.'"By relying on our emotions to act as a barometer of our success, you're not likely to get very far. New things aren't going to feel right the first time you do them. Most times you're in new territory it's pretty normal to feel uncomfortable or like things aren't working out right. In understanding the messages that you send to yourself, you likewise start understanding why you have certain limitations. By paying attention to self-talk, you're better able to push past this point into the possibility of success. It's all a matter of listening to what you have to say. If that already isn't reason enough, then let's look at some serious reasons to push past your limitations and escape the comfort zone.
There's a whole world out there waiting for you.When you're in your comfort zone, you're not exploring or discovering what life has to offer.
You never discover what you're capable of until you try.Don't you want to know just how far you can go, and what you're able to become?
You get to learn something you never knew before.By challenging yourself, that's where you pick up new skill sets and abilities. These will lead you to all kinds of fascinating new places.
You'll become healthier.By pushing yourself into motion, you'll find that you start doing more, which leads to exercising more. People in the comfort zone spend far too much time as couch potatoes. Is that really where you want to be?
You start to build new habits.A little push into something new every single day quickly becomes habitual. This effort means you're bettering yourself daily.
You find out things you never knew about yourself.When you push yourself to the limit, you find out your actual strengths. That leads to a voyage of self-discovery that is extremely rewarding.
You'll find that once you start, you can't wait to keep going.The hardest part of any new endeavour is the beginning. Once you're in motion, you tend to stay in motion. Imagine if you started accomplishing new things regularly. What amazing things could you achieve?
You'll find out where those limits genuinely are.And then break through them all over again. Pushing to your limits helps you to know what your new goals should be, and then teaches you how to get past them. Pushing yourself to the limit is the start of an exciting new journey that will take you places the comfort zone never could and shows you the person you never thought you could be. Isn't it time to see what the world has to offer and what you have to offer it?
This post is all about how you only need to make small changes to improve your life.
Most of us already know that if we are not happy, then we need to make changes to be happier.
But did you know that those changes can be achieved with subtle tweaks?
Small Tweaks Create Massive Changes
A lot of people want to improve their life because they are not as happy as they think they should be.
Not talking about anything major, just a few tweaks here and there. Some of you might only need a few of them to get to a quality of life that you choose to have.
Improve Your Life by Showing Gratitude
Embrace the daily practice of showing gratitude for what you have in your life.
Get outside, smell the air, listen to the birds' sing, and feel the warmth of the sun on your skin.
Some people find it easier to note their thoughts and appreciation in a Gratitude Journal.
Your journal can be a plain notebook or one with prompts on writing about your gratitude.
It doesn't matter as the journal is a vehicle to save your thoughts. Putting pen to paper to write your ideas is what's important.
Improve Your Life by Uncovering Your Life Purpose
Pause for a moment and focus on the reason you do what you do daily.
Figure out your "why".
Some people choose an exercise like running or yoga as a way to find their life's purpose.
Others prefer to experience the awe of nature.
You'll develop a whole new outlook on life once you connect with your life purpose.
Our daily life gets so busy and chaotic that we get so wrapped in it that it becomes easy to lose track of what is important and why we are here in the first place.
Improve Your Life by Focusing On Your Health
Yet every day we see people abusing their health.
Then they complain about the lousy hand they were dealt when most of their challenges are self-inflicted.
Do you want to be that person?
A Positive Decision
Make a positive decision to live a healthier lifestyle. Focus on clean eating.
A lot of people are unsure about what to eat. I admit it can get confusing, so keep this simple rule in mind:
Your body also needs exercise to stay healthy. The AHA (American Heart Association) recommends getting a minimum of 150 minutes of moderate exercise per week.
If you start exercising, after a while, you will find it has a way of making you feel good.
You will also find it increases your productivity, improves your emotional health, improves your outlook on life, and provides clarity on your life purpose.
Improve Your Life by Getting Quality Sleep
Our body recharges itself when we sleep. Repairs are made to our muscles and the body's systems.
When you don't get enough quality sleep, you start the day with a half tank of fuel instead of a full one.
Evaluate the reasons you are not sleeping as well or as long as you should.
It could be your mind keeping you awake by thinking about something that you need to resolve.
Look at the quality of your bedding and mattress, the temperature of your bedroom, the amount of light coming in through the window, the noise outside.
Change what is causing you the issues and get the rest you need.
Improve Your Life by Always Having A Goal
Having a goal fits in beautifully with discovering your life purpose.
When you have a goal, it gives you a purpose for getting up in the morning and getting on your daily grind.
If you are have enjoyed life a bit too much and put on weight, your goal could be to live a healthier lifestyle and lose that excess weight.
Depending on how much you have enjoyed life, that goal could keep you going for a while!
Maybe you are at the point in your life when you want a change, that might mean a change of career or to downsize and travel.
It doesn't matter what your goal is, just make sure it is SMARTER:
Specific: State your end goal explicitly and without any ambiguity. It must explain specifically what has to be achieved and the expected outcome.
Measurable: How are you going to gauge whether you are making progress? You must be able to answer this question: "How will I know that I have reached my goal, and the objective is attained, and what evidence is required to confirm it?"
Attainable: this criterion emphasises setting a goal that is challenging but nonetheless reachable against the existing constraints. You also have to assess whether the goal is realistic bearing in mind the other objectives and goals that you already have.
Relevant: the goal must be tied to your priorities or ideally your life purpose for it to be meaningful. You also have to check whether the timing for the goal is appropriate.
Time-bound: Set a timetable to specify an appropriate time frame for your goal. When do you intend to start and to end? What are the intermediate steps and critical milestones to accomplish it? Celebrate each accomplishment with a reward, but the reward should not sabotage the end goal.
Evaluated: When you define specific checkpoints and the expected related deliverables, you can evaluate progress towards the end goal. Do not wait to reach your time-limit before assessing progress. The process of evaluation allows you to get back on track to achieving your end goal in the time frame you specified.
Revisit: on reaching the end of the time frame that you defined for the goal, run a final evaluation to assess your success in achieving your objectives. Revisiting the objective should become the starting point for setting your new goals. What lessons did you learn? What would you do differently next time? And why? If the goal was reached, remember to reward yourself. And if it wasn't, recognise the accomplishment and effort that you put into trying to reach your goal.
Improve Your Life by Making Happiness A Choice
We can use part of our brainpower to develop a more positive mindset. Note I wrote, more positive.
That presupposes we are all positive, to begin with.
It is harder to have a positive mindset than a negative one because most of us habitually focus on the negative aspects of our lives.
Could you make a happiness goal? We could strive to improve and enhance the quality of our life each day.
Even by just 1% each day. Imagine the cumulative effect after 30 days or a whole year.
Improve Your Life by Using A Stop-Doing List
Now you have that time you couldn't find to exercise or see your family. No more excuses! Give it a go. Once you start doing a stop-doing list, you will be amazed.
Improve Your Life by Connecting With People
Get out there and connect. If you are not comfortable meeting in person, then connect on social media or call on the phone
Improve Your Life by Making Learning A Life-Long Habit
Even better if you learn a foreign language to help you with your travels. All this new activity keeps your mind sharp.
Improve Your Life by Minimising Stress
Physiologically we need a certain amount of stress to survive.
And that is when stress becomes an issue, both physically and mentally. When you are stressed, your body releases cortisol.
The problem is that nowadays, our body interprets everyday situations as stressful and in response, dumps cortisol into our system far too often.
The best advice is to reduce the amount of stress you are under.
You can try meditation or removing yourself from some situations. Warning that might mean getting a different job.
Improve Your Life by Focusing On What You Can Control
Too many times, we see people that waste a lot of thought and energy on things they have no control over. It is an unproductive behaviour that you will never benefit from, except by getting more frustrated and stressed.
Think back to when you were studying.
Instead, you could focus on the things you can control, like how you could spend your time revising for the exam.
There you have it. Eleven small tweaks ways you that will help you make massive changes.
A distinction.The critical distinction is that limits are enforced upon us. At the same time, we set boundaries, and in doing so, we place restrictions or limits on ourselves. This is important because our boundaries affect our energy levels, feelings, self-concept, self-respect, and happiness. Our boundaries ensure that we have our needs met and that we aren't being taken advantage of. Unfortunately, we can become 'limited' in our abilities, behaviour, and self-concept. These limits can be expanded with education, self-awareness, intention and repetition. We can set new boundaries with ourselves and create boundaries to clarify how we want and expect to be treated by others. Think about areas such as time management, lifestyle, and eating habits. It all rests on one critical part, 'choice' and your reasoning behind it. Boundaries should be different for different people. You can also review your boundaries and change them if you decide that you want to be either more flexible or more rigid. And you can make that decision depending on the other person's circumstances and behaviour.
We need boundaries.With knowing ourselves better, we begin to assert what is acceptable and what isn't. What we will tolerate and do, and what we won't. For example:
- How much effort you're willing to put into a job.
- How much time you're willing to spend with someone.
- What you're willing to do with your partner.
- What demands or expectations from others that you're willing to meet.
Creating and maintaining boundaries.The first step in creating boundaries is to be crystal clear with yourself about the boundaries you want in place. Then you need to keep your boundaries in your thinking. Ask yourself, "Do my boundaries need re-enforcing?" when you interact with someone who keeps pushing against them. Or, conversely ask yourself, "Do my boundaries need softening?" when you interact with someone who has learnt to have more respect for you. Always express yourself assertively and clearly, leaving no doubt about your intended message.
Mixed feelings.It is natural to have mixed feelings about creating boundaries and enforcing them. When I made the conscious decision not to be the people-pleaser and push-over any more, I felt a sense of guilt. Partly self-imposed but mainly from others who applied guilt to have me revert back to meeting their needs without question. A lot of people will feel a level of discomfort when asserting themselves. These are your choices, and it is your right to assert them. If you fail to set boundaries, no-one else will do set them for you! In the give and take of life, it's equally important to become aware of and to respect other people's boundaries. Just as you have a right to your boundaries, they have a right to theirs, even when you don't agree with them!
How limits get set.We've all felt them. We reach for a goal, only to stop short. We call that stoppage or limit. All too often we don't stop to analyse the origin of the limit or whether it's a limit at all. The problem is if you don't understand how the limit was created in the first place, how in the world can you expect to defeat it? There are three originators of limits. Two of them come from us, and one doesn't. Let's explore these further.
Limits we encounter from the world around us.From the time we're old enough to be aware that others around us not only exist but also form opinions of us by our actions, we start creating limitations. These limitations have a lot to do with worry about being embarrassed, failing publically or being put into a position where we might be hurt or ridiculed. In short, we allow everyone in the world the honour of telling us our capabilities. The only way past this particular kind of limitation is by standing up for yourself. Decide just what you're going to be affected by, and who has a right to tell you anything. Anyone else can jump in a lake.
Limits from our bodies.Unless you're a super athlete, you're not operating at peak efficiency. In fact, according to various studies, the average person can use about 65% of their muscles (less if you're a couch potato) as opposed to the 80% used by someone who's trained professionally. What this means for you is that sometimes you're going to physically hit a wall and think that's where you stop. The truth is, you're capable of more than you think. And it's OK to force your body past that limit sometimes. Not sure how far is right for you? Enlist the help of your doctor or a personal trainer.
Limits that come from a brain that's overloaded.When you get too busy or start multitasking, here's where the problems start. A brain on overload makes mistakes. You start getting too emotional, and you make poor decisions. All this happens when your mind has reached the limit of what it can handle. The solution? Focus on one thing at a time. If that still doesn't work, you might need a break for a bit. The next time you feel like you've hit a wall, take time to ask yourself some honest questions about where that limitation came from in the first place. By understanding where it came from, you know exactly how to work past it so that nothing will stand in the way of your success. .
"Education is what remains after one has forgotten what one has learned in school." - Albert EinsteinLearning is the never-ending process of improving oneself. The more you start learning about the things you are interested in, the more you realise that an array of new things to be learned opens up in front of you and you are never truly finished.
At least know this one thing.After all, Socrates did say
"I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing."Well, he knew one thing, at least. The process of learning is quite simple, and it comes down to incorporating several habits into your day–to–day life. These will help you look at things differently, and changing the way you do them will change you for the better.
"Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow." - Anthony J. D'AngeloYour first step towards your personal growth is going through this list of advice thoroughly. Make a plan for each, and think when and how you are going to implement these into your daily life. You see, without a well-thought-out plan, personal growth is impossible. However, if you have a plan without any action, personal growth is nothing but theory and no practice. This being said, here's the list of the most useful tips to boost your learning process successfully:
Spend more time with people you look up to.There is a certain vibration we all vibrate on. Some vibrate on a higher level, some on a lower – it's the simple physics of the universe. The higher you are, the closer you will be to your better self, to fulfilling your purpose and being happy. Good news is that you can consciously alter vibrations. They can be increased or lowered by changing the way you look at things happening around you. For instance, if you are seeking to grow personally surround yourself with people that are already what you strive towards. Successful people will always inspire you to work on yourself and never stop learning at any point in your life. If at the moment, you don't have those people around you, there are still things you can do. Read biographies, listen to motivational speakers, and real-life success stories of people who achieved their better self already. Let the change of environment be the first step towards hacking your learning process.
Think BIG but start small.Set a goal so big that it makes you jump from bed every morning to reach it. When you find something so 'outside the box', it gives you energy and gets you going every day. This way, you will be motivated to learn and improve yourself – gain the skills you need to reach your goal. Inevitably, in the process, you will reach potential growth as well. However, don't forget the part where you need to start small and split the goal into small chunks. This is because by not doing so, you might feel overwhelmed and quit the entire process beforehand.
Exercise your brain every day.Unlike robots and machines that grow weary, the more we use them, our brains are quite the opposite – the more we use them, the better they become. A healthy brain is your way to more effective learning and personal growth. Numerous studies have proven that learning a new language, reading or even searching the internet can be favourable to you.
"Stay positive and happy. Work hard and don't give up hope. Be open to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people." - Tena DesaeThese activities slow down the cognitive ageing of the brain, improve its functionality to serve you better throughout your life. With the help of technology, there are many ways to gain new skills nowadays.
Refuse to settle.Don't settle for what you already know how to use. Step out of your comfort zone instead, and use new tools and platforms for learning. Subscribe to email newsletters from blogs that offer valuable information in return. You can sign up for online courses, virtual seminars or conferences, or even try new phone applications. There are a million possibilities if only you have the will to do it. Truth is, the more active you are, the lower your risk of diseases like dementia is.
"Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do." - Pele
Include physical exercise and a healthy diet.In addition to 'brain exercises', exercising your body puts your brain in shape too. It reduces the chances of short-term memory loss and improves your overall lifestyle quality. The hormones of happiness are being released, and besides feeling better, you are protecting your brain against certain diseases. A few of which include the risk of neurodegenerative diseases and cognitive decline. Cognitive decline affects processing speed, executive function, and visuospatial skills. Too much slouching at home or sitting at work can literally kill you. Additionally, food is critical when it comes to brain health. If you don't have healthy eating habits, you need to learn how to get back on track with food too. This is return allows you efficient learning, memorising easier, taking you a step closer to your personal growth.
Demand and expect a lot from yourself.Growing as a process stands for accomplishing something far more, far higher than where you stand right now. To put yourself in a position for personal growth, you need to demand more from yourself. Keep on setting higher goals and as you reach them, set even higher ones. This way, you are continuously expanding your consciousness and skills. Once you start doing this, you are unable to stop because you see the rewarding fruit of your growth.
Stay curious, no matter what.Lastly, no matter how much education and wisdom you acquire over the years, you can't afford to stop. It would be best if you continued looking for the next big thing to avoid being overrun by innovation. Learn how to become highly effective and create good daily habits. The world is moving forward rapidly, and it's hard to keep up unless you use your 24 hours smartly. This is why you need to adapt and move forward with it. By striving to know more and incorporating these strategies, you are automatically learning how to consume knowledge. This knowledge, therefore, will serve you as a fundamental part of your personal growth. I commend you if you've already started to hack your learning process and improve yourself. Could you "Leave A Reply" below and share your experience to encourage the other readers? .
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